The Value of Friendship

(1 Samuel 18:1-5 and 1 Samuel 20:1-42)

Friendship is one of the most valuable things a man can have. There is no equal for a true friend. In the case of David and Jonathan we see an example of true friendship that stood the test of hardship and time.  David’s friendship with Jonathan started right after his defeat of Goliath. And even though it was tested by Jonathan’s father wanting to kill David their friendship withstood the test and David honored their friendship even after Jonathan had died.

Some characteristics of a true friend : (1 Samuel 20:1-42)

1)  A true friend is someone you can consult with about problems (verses 1-3)

• The problem here was a sensitive matter. David was telling Jonathan that his father wanted to kill him. That truth would have destroyed many friendships.

(Proverbs 27:9 ; Proverbs 16:28 ; Proverbs 27:5-6)

2)  A true friend is committed unto you (verses 14-17)

• David and Jonathan committed themselves unto one another in these verses. Note the covenant that they both agreed to. (Proverbs 17:17)

3)  A true friend must be of the same faith (verse 42)

• The reason that their friendship lasted and was so strong was because it had the bond of them both being connected to the Lord.
• This is why we need friends of the same faith.

Two things we must do in order to have true friendship:

1)  First off we must friendly (Proverbs 18:24)

• If we expect to have friends then we must be friendly. Nothing is more ironic as the meanest person in town complaining that he has no friends.

2)  We must also give of ourselves expecting nothing in return (1 Samuel 18:1-4)

• Jonathan gave sacrificially of himself to David expecting nothing in return. We must do the same thing. But sadly many times we only give when there is something to be gained in return.

The Greatest friend you could ever have: (John 15:12-14)

Jesus Christ is the greatest friend you could ever have. He not only died for your sins, but he is the only person in the world who is capable of doing the things in this outline without fail. This is why you should strive to have a person relationship with him after Salvation, because one day you may be forsaken by all but you will never be forsaken by Jesus Christ. Get to know him as best as you can. It will make all the difference in your life.

The Value of Friendship

(1 Samuel 18:1-5 and 1 Samuel 20:1-42)

Handout

1)  What event started David and Jonathan’s friendship?

2)  What are the characteristics of a true friend that we see between David and Jonathan?

3)  What are two things that we must do in order to be a good friend?

4)  Who is the greatest friend that we could ever have?